When does stress become too much and what can we do about it?
The reasons for feeling stressed and anxious can be numerous. At some point, in most of our lives, we may feel that “good stress”, which motivates and directs are energies, is overcome by a wave of anxiety.
Why does this happen? At what stage do we flip from coping and being resilient to floundering and feeling out of control?
The American psychiatrist, Dan Siegel, has a number of interesting ways to describe the interaction of our thoughts and emotions. He describes the world of emotions and thoughts in terms of river flow. Ideally we want to find the middle part of the river where thoughts and emotions flow with a smooth, graceful evolution. He describes parts of the flow in the river as stuck, slow, meandering and turgid. And he describes other parts as chaotic, confusing and unpredictable.
In order to help us deal with, learn from and grow from our anxiety and stress, it’s worth considering what the triggers are that make us feel either heavy, slow and ponderous or chaotic and unpredictable.
But in order to do that we first need to slow down and see the world through calm eyes. We live our lives and react to the thoughts, emotions and events swirling through our lives through the prism of our current emotions. When we feel super stressed, even small set backs and negative comments stick with us and hurt us emotionally and physically. At other times, when we are feeling upbeat and positive, we are better able to learn from set backs and negative feedback and see them as opportunities for growth.
Neuroscience coaching, counselling and psychotherapy at Breathe London
In order to slow down and observe the patterns and triggers in a calm and balanced way we need to feel listened to, trusting and trusted, supported and nurtured and to be able to draw on evidenced based stress management tools.
The therapists at Breathe have many years experience in creating safe spaces. Each has a number of different evidenced based tools to pass on to their clients. These tools range from self-hypnosis, tapping, mindfulness, breath work and positive visualisation. These tools enable us to see the world in a more balanced and calm way. They create a space for us to observe our experience.
The relationship with your coach or therapist
The two most important aspects of successful coaching and therapy is the quality and validity of the approach taken and most important is the trust that is built up between therapist/coach and client.
We recommend spending some time reading the biographies of the therapists and coaches at Breathe London and then contact them to make a first consultation. Each of the practitioners has unique gifts and competencies and it is up to you, together, to create a space of healing and growth.
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